"The irony is that as much as a "codependent" feels responsibility for others and takes care of others, she believes deep down that other people are responsible for her. She blames others for her unhappiness and problems, and feels that it's other people's fault that she's unhappy.
Another irony is that while she feels controlled by people and events, she herself is overly controlling. She is afraid of allowing other people to be who they are and of allowing events to happen naturally. An expert in knowing best how things should turn out and how people should behave, the codependent person tries to control others through threats, coercion, advice giving, helplessness, guilt, manipulation, or domination."
She blames others for her unhappiness and problems, and feels that it's other people's fault that she's unhappy.
Interesting way of putting it. I hate it when I realize I'm acting this way.
ReplyDeleteTo me being able to recognise that it affected me helped to cope with the sisfunction that surrounds me on a day to day basis.
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